A sermon preached at St. Luke Episcopal Church, Renton, WA on 2/15/2024. The gospel passage was Mark 7:1-15 -- disciples eating with unclean hands.
Dominance
and submission – two startling words to start a sermon you don’t hear every
Sunday. They are two fundamental powers
present in all human interactions. The
interplay of give and take with these two powers appears any time two people or
two groups begin relating. The range of
possibilities are endless. When they are
in an ideal balance back and forth, it’s like a couple skilled at dancing where
they are beautifully in sync and stunningly flow across the floor. But when the two powers aren’t in balance, it
can be like my wife and me dancing – where we don’t even try dancing anymore
because we have never resolved in almost 50 years who is leading. In all human
relationships, there is this dance, so to speak, between who leads and who
follows. In every conversation, these
powers are at play. Who, for instance.
has not been in a work setting conversation where “the boss” gives us
instructions? Or when you’re with
friends – have you noticed if the conversation is flowing smoothly, it is
because each participant takes their turn with about equal time talking and
listening? But what happens to the
conversation if one person dominates the conversation?
Groups
have these same dominance/submission power dynamics. Let’s cut to the gospel lesson. Judaism, at the approximate time the Gospel
of Mark was written, had grown their Law from the 10 commandments in the days
of Moses to just over 600 commandments covering every aspect of life… from what
kettle you could cook vegetables in to who could sit where in the
synagogue. It was a way that the
religion dominated their adherents’ lives.
As the adherent, you could be put out if you didn’t submit to the rules.
So, we see the Pharisees, who were basically
the beat cops, calling out Jesus’ disciples for their slovenly eating behavior
of not having washed their hands. They remind me of a kindergarten teacher scolding
their students for not having sung the Alphabet Song slowly enough while washing
their hands.
But
Jesus jumps in to defend his disciples (shrewdly) by raising a question with
the Pharisees about a law violation they themselves were committing. He had noted that in their stumbling over
themselves to prove their extraordinary piety and devotion, they were offering
a lot of sacrifices or korban.
Sacrifices cost a lot of money.
So Jesus asks, in essence, with all you’re spending on sacrifices, what’s
going to be left for you to take care of your aging parents – and if you can’t
take care of them because you’ve given it all to sacrifices, how is that
honoring your father and mother? One of
the key jujitsu moves to flip the position of who is dominating is to ask a
question. Here, Jesus asks the question
about the Pharisee's incongruity in nit-pickiness.
It
does seem to rock them back on their heels, and then Jesus, occupying a
dominant position, teaches his followers, saying for the first time explicitly
that the dietary laws (that occupied a large chunk of Jewish law) mean
absolutely nothing. What counts in his realm
is what comes from a person’s heart.
I
want everyone to be clear about the judo move Jesus pulled here on the
Pharisees. They’re in the dominant
social position to issue fiats and orders and call people on the carpet for
what they deem improper behavior. And
Jesus turns from a submissive adherent to the powers that be to a dominant
place of teaching his faithful followers they can ignore the dietary laws in
total. All by asking a simple question of the powers that called for an
accounting of their own hypocrisy.
This
is a skill we would all do well to have in our quiver for all of the times
along the Good Way when we might run into the powerful, the bullies, the
obtuse, the difficult, and the wrong-headed folks in the world. Have you ever
had the experience of being confronted about a belief or behavior that we have then
bowed to because their dominance/authority was strong enough that we lost our
voice? It happens to all of us, but I suspect that
women and people of color find themselves in these difficult, lonely,
silence-imposing tough spots with anyone claiming some kind of authority over
us (real, assumed, or imagined.) There are many troublesome tales of rigid
churches silencing women or demanding the right belief to be part of the community. Or mansplainers at work who take your ideas
and claim them as their own. Or bosses
who behave as if they own us and presume we will work whatever hours they throw
at us. In the church, there are many who
don’t feel it appropriate or okay to ask questions about doctrine and theology or
they get ignored and the message is clearly sent that questioning is not
acceptable. Flipping it happens when we are brave enough to ask why those
behaviors are okay.
I
would call what Jesus demonstrates here: “Wild Spiriting.” He didn’t need 600 laws to tell him what the
right way was. As adults, if our hearts are grounded in God’s love, we
really don’t need a bunch of rules or authorities telling us how to act, what
to think, who to love or help, or how to behave. Love is a powerful guide. Wild Spiriting uses the dominant spirit of
love to call out love-stifling conventions, rules, and societal trends that are
just wrong. Wild Spiriting can guide and
direct us in any relationship even those where we can sometimes find ourselves mute
in the face of wrong. Anytime something
happens where we come away from it feeling less-than, guilty, or sorrowful about
not having said/done something -- Wild Spiriting calls us home and reminds us
to whom we belong. Wild Spiriting is where love, kindness, compassion, care,
and certainty of God’s blessing upon us is the only license we need to step out
of submission & confront the wrong or injustice we see or experience.
So
Wild Spiriting and the Christian faith are powered by an alternating current of
domination & submission. It requires
the submission phase of observing silence, study, and steady contemplation in prayer
and listening to God with the flip into the dominance of getting one’s hands
dirty – asking, working, leading, and challenging to broaden the Way/the Good
Road/the Path for ever greater equality, compassion, and healing justice.
Treading this path alone can be challenging. The powers we face can be very
intimidating. But hopefully, here, in
this church – I hope you can feel safe to use your voice to engage and ask
questions. To practice the jujitsu of
flipping submission to domination and vice versa. To practice the fine arts of
Wild Spiriting – where we encourage, name, report on successes, and get pulled
up when all our responses to a sinful world have felt puny/weak. It is here where
we’re reminded of our worthiness as God’s ambassadors and children. Never to
oppress or flaunt, but to open dialogue, articulate clearly The Good Way, and,
with our hearts leading, inspire the changes needed for a more perfect balanced
world that can dance beautifully/gracefully across God’s majestic ballroom.